Going from dating to friends with benefits
Conversely, you also can’t sleep with someone six times and then just assume they’re on the same page simply because you guys keep having sex.Up-front communication is key in a friends-with-benefits relationship, if only to prevent thornier conversations later.Cuddling encourages intimacy which is a no-no with a friend with benefits. If you find out they’re interested in someone, that’s okay, they’re not cheating on you. After a few nights of what’s hopefully amazing sex, don’t feel forced to start doing date-like things like going shopping together, seeing a movie, or—in Carrie Bradshaw’s case on “Sex and the City”—inviting them to dinner because you connect so well in the bedroom, you assume it’ll translate elsewhere.As Carrie learned with the less-than-scintillating Mc Fadden: Keep your chemistry contained to the bedroom where it belongs.You can suggest casual sex with a friend you’ve been flirting with (just make your expectations clear), but the ongoing agreement of a sex relationship can’t happen until you’ve already boned once.
You need to make sure that you’re open about everything. The main point of having a FWB is to have amazing, satisfying sex.You don’t want miss out on not getting to know someone amazing just because you have a sex buddy. You want to keep yourself from getting emotionally attached, so sleeping next to your FWB—and walking up next to them—is extremely intimate. Once you become a stage 5 clinger, the fun is done. If they don’t already know your “friend,” don’t introduce them to your family or friends.Say goodnight, take a shower, and get into bed feeling relaxed, satisfied, and totally comfortable with the fact that they went home. You don’t want people in your life to start nagging you about “what’s going on with you guys?! They’re allowed to date, tinder stalk, or Facebook friend anyone they wants.I’m just going to tell you how to do it the right way.WHENA friends-with-benefits talk should happen only after sex has already happened once—asking before there’s been any mutual acknowledgement of sexual interest is a bit too bold, and is more likely to land you in an uncomfortable situation.